Who I am
&
What I do
Remembering Wholeness
Counselling is meant to help you become aware of the beliefs, convictions, patterns, and stories that get in your way. Receiving guidance and support can help name, resolve, and release these. So you hold who you are and how this is expressed. Based on my lived experience and evolved insights, I have developed my integrative approach: SULMUM.
SOUL SOUP
Whether you are an atheist or agnostic, a humanist, or adhere to one of the World’s religions, it does not matter: We all long for connection and communion. With ourselves, our surroundings, and our loved ones. Or with something even beyond that. Who or what is at home in your soul soup?
LOVING LANGUAGE
The inner critique or the internalised critical voices of others undermine us. By not only consciously observing which words we let in, but also our self-talk and the stories we have created, we find our language to liberate and motivate us. Words have meaning. Choose them wisely.
INNER WISDOM
Every human being holds innate wisdom. It is held in the mind and the soul, but also in the body. Intuition, instinct, or this inexplicable knowing, are deeply rooted in our being. By reaching out and opening up to the inner voice, we are reminded we are whole. Hear the whispers, before they become shouts.
SULMUM IN PRACTICE
SULMUM intentionally steps out of the performance-driven tradition of quick fixes and rapid transformation. Even if it feels like a flash when something clicks and shifts profoundly, it will be because of extensive inner processing. We have to be ready to hear our truths.
I do not engage in the more directive model of change work, often rooted in a “technician” mindset: the idea that the practitioner is the expert, and the client is the subject being “fixed.” It’s transactional, fast, and often focused on symptom removal rather than deep integration.
This stands in contrast to the trauma-informed, collaborative, relational approaches I am continuously building into my practice. With SULMUM, healing is not something done to someone, but a space held with someone.
True healing is not the fixing of the broken, but the rediscovery of the Unbroken.
-Jeff Foster-
LOVE
When we are pushed to our limits: We learn we have no bounds. When we face our mortality: We finally understand what it is to be infinite. When we fall into the core of ourselves: There is an entire universe to catch us. When we hold ourselves unconditionally: We discover a space to hold it all.
When it all caves in, and courage does not show up like a knight in shining armour, you still have you.
-Lee R.-
Lee R.
We all leave parts of ourselves behind—out of survival, sacrifice, or silence. But there comes a time when it is right to call those parts home, to stand fully in the light of who you are.
Life can fracture us. Trauma, loss, illness, and upheaval can leave us feeling scattered or disconnected. But disconnection is not the same as being broken. You are not lost. You are still here.
My own path to healing has been anything but linear. In 2011, I was diagnosed with a rare, incurable sarcoma. The prognosis was terminal, but I am still here—granted more time than anyone expected.
Healing hasn’t meant curing. It has meant showing up, again and again, in radical presence. It has meant becoming an ally to myself, returning to wholeness, and learning how to live—not in spite of uncertainty, but inside it.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is what we stand for – our wholeness. Living wholly, means living our values. By being honest with ourselves and others, we expand our sovereignty and inner freedom, allowing us to connect from an authentic self.
MEANING
Meaning is how we shape our lives. We are, by nature, meaning-making creatures. Live purposefully. The events and experiences of our lives are an invitation to contemplate how we create meaning.
Don’t live each day as if it is your last.
Live as if it will last forever.
– Mirella Satoor de Rootas –